I have a lot of things going on in my mind when it comes to men and women and how stereotypes make the mout to be. THE ARGUEMENT that took place in one of our classes seems to be the talk of the town. While this ARGUEMENT got personal and crossed some lines, I thought it was classic male vs female. The stereotype that men have is that they are blunt, macho, and need to be one up on everyone and everything. Women have the stereotype of not taking charge and just talking around subjects. A majority of guys need to know what you want; they don't want to guess and get it wrong because when they get it wrong the girl gets all butthurt and their time together is no bueno. I personally don't fit the stereotype of how a woman should speak and many of us don't. Amari and I talk to each other at our table in class and the guys who sit with us laugh because we talk like "guys". We are straight forward, say what we feel, and we aren't ashamed to say what we think. Some girls talk around what they want and it drives me crazy. Now most men need to feel like they are in charge and to prove that they can get what they want. They always try to act like they are big and bad when they are not. Most try to act like they know everything when they don't but to say that would be seen as a weakness. I just wish people would look past the stereotypes that have been there forever! Break the mold people like really. Don't hold back your voice and don't be afraid of what others will say.
Wednesday, June 3, 2009
OKEY DOKEY i can't stop laughing
Tuesday, June 2, 2009
Book Review
The English patient by Michael Ondaatje is a very interesting story it takes place after the European war has ended with the Germans retreating up the Italian countryside. There are a couple of characters: Hana a nurse that stays in town with her English patient, after everyone else left to a safer place. The English patient, who was a victim of war torture, and is now being taken care of by the nurse. His true identity is hidden within the affair he had with a married woman. Another character is Kip, an Indian whose job was to defuse bomb that had left behind in the town in which Hana and the English patient were located. Kip becomes a part of Hana’s sentimental life, until the United States drops an atomic bomb in Japan and he changes his path. The way all these characters connect and the way their lives reflect some Historic moments is interesting and I would recommend everyone to read this book.
Girls vs. Boys
At first, I thought boys were the competitive ones. Honestly, they have to make everything a contest, and the skew their way into winners. Wait, I don't know that. I don't know much about guys, because, frankly, I'm not one. I'm not going to pretend to start thinking I know about guys and I'm sure going to try and avoid to accuse them of anything. Back to competing... Throughout these blogs, I have seen girls compete trying to make their stance on who's better. I mean, they make this great approach about how we're all poor communicators and then BAM, "I'm not like that." These posts have made me come to a conclusion that women do not suppress themselves but rather leave room to makes them look even better through comparing.
This approach is great! I'm a competitor myself, I'm often caught saying "winner" when there is really no contest, but that's not the point. The point is looking good. When someone makes a clear picture that they are definitely better than their competition, how could they lose?! I mean, if you had a really nice picture, where would you place it by.. Heidi Klum or coked up Amy Whinehouse? I'd place it by Whinehouse because I'd probably look 10x's better than if I placed by than an actual model. It's like the whole "feel-fat?-get-fatter-friends" concept. We've all heard of it and it's been so effective. It's great to hear women stand up for themselves.
I really hope that this section isn't about the difference between boys and girls. Obviously, there has to be a difference. That extra 'X' or 'Y' chromosome makes a huge difference. Testosterone, estrogen, every chemical takes a toll on our bodies and we already know that there is a behavioral difference between the sexes. I was hoping more for a cultural experience. I would like to learn about the "talk-stories" and how the asian cultlure has effected us. I would rather learn, who do politicians appeal to, minorites or their own race, and do they use culture to help that influence. I would rather learn about the cultures of other countries, how they eat, who they eat with, what they eat, things like that, to make a better distinction between cultures. Our studies seemed to be based around stereotypes, and I was hoping that we'd learn how not to think that way.
However, in a class dicussion, I realized that awareness is important. I use to be one of those people who believed that racism was over, at least in California. It seems that just because I don't practice it, or see any of it, it doesn't mean that it doesn't exist. Same with sexism and any other prejudice. A harsh reality I've come to terms with. I couldn't do a project based on the chemistry of STD's and sex because I just so happened to be doing the project with my boyfriend. Right away, people throw in jokes about how we researched, but that just wasn't the case. Two boys or two girls simply wouldn't have to go through principals, vice principals, and adminstrators just to present an hour on this type of subject. I remember being frustrated and wished that other people would believe that we'd approach any subject appropriately and maturely. I hated how they didn't trust us to take sex seriously, just because of how old we were. It's like they expected us to follow the stereotype. How dare they put us to such low standards! I guess since prejudism is such a nasty thing to experience, that I hoped that people could surpass that and be all nice to each other. You know, all the hippie love stuff.
I've really been blind, I've always hear Mayfair complaining how we're separated into groups. Certain people, certain personalities, they always got to stick together. I assumed that this was false due to the fact that I've had classmates I've never seen before engage conversation in classrooms and how I'm always saying hi to the class of '09 outside of school. Nobody really talked badly about each other and I thought that was the only factor in separation. As long as we respected each other, categorizing ourselves and separating ourselves couldn't be possible. Still, we separate by how we're treated by teachers, and other peers. We categorize by our interests and our cultures. I'm sure it's improved from when my dad was in high school, but I'm sure that our children will be more united than we feel today.
This approach is great! I'm a competitor myself, I'm often caught saying "winner" when there is really no contest, but that's not the point. The point is looking good. When someone makes a clear picture that they are definitely better than their competition, how could they lose?! I mean, if you had a really nice picture, where would you place it by.. Heidi Klum or coked up Amy Whinehouse? I'd place it by Whinehouse because I'd probably look 10x's better than if I placed by than an actual model. It's like the whole "feel-fat?-get-fatter-friends" concept. We've all heard of it and it's been so effective. It's great to hear women stand up for themselves.
I really hope that this section isn't about the difference between boys and girls. Obviously, there has to be a difference. That extra 'X' or 'Y' chromosome makes a huge difference. Testosterone, estrogen, every chemical takes a toll on our bodies and we already know that there is a behavioral difference between the sexes. I was hoping more for a cultural experience. I would like to learn about the "talk-stories" and how the asian cultlure has effected us. I would rather learn, who do politicians appeal to, minorites or their own race, and do they use culture to help that influence. I would rather learn about the cultures of other countries, how they eat, who they eat with, what they eat, things like that, to make a better distinction between cultures. Our studies seemed to be based around stereotypes, and I was hoping that we'd learn how not to think that way.
However, in a class dicussion, I realized that awareness is important. I use to be one of those people who believed that racism was over, at least in California. It seems that just because I don't practice it, or see any of it, it doesn't mean that it doesn't exist. Same with sexism and any other prejudice. A harsh reality I've come to terms with. I couldn't do a project based on the chemistry of STD's and sex because I just so happened to be doing the project with my boyfriend. Right away, people throw in jokes about how we researched, but that just wasn't the case. Two boys or two girls simply wouldn't have to go through principals, vice principals, and adminstrators just to present an hour on this type of subject. I remember being frustrated and wished that other people would believe that we'd approach any subject appropriately and maturely. I hated how they didn't trust us to take sex seriously, just because of how old we were. It's like they expected us to follow the stereotype. How dare they put us to such low standards! I guess since prejudism is such a nasty thing to experience, that I hoped that people could surpass that and be all nice to each other. You know, all the hippie love stuff.
I've really been blind, I've always hear Mayfair complaining how we're separated into groups. Certain people, certain personalities, they always got to stick together. I assumed that this was false due to the fact that I've had classmates I've never seen before engage conversation in classrooms and how I'm always saying hi to the class of '09 outside of school. Nobody really talked badly about each other and I thought that was the only factor in separation. As long as we respected each other, categorizing ourselves and separating ourselves couldn't be possible. Still, we separate by how we're treated by teachers, and other peers. We categorize by our interests and our cultures. I'm sure it's improved from when my dad was in high school, but I'm sure that our children will be more united than we feel today.
Free Rice
Free Rice is amazing! It is like doing the two best things you can do at the same time.
This site, features on our wonderful blog is a great site. It is basically taking a quiz, but the quiz can be on any subject your wish to study: langauge, math, chemisty, art, and english. You take this quiz right, and every answer you get right 10 grams of rice will be donated to the UN food program. Great right?
So at this site you can get the extra studying you want with the initiative to feed those less fortunate. Well, I do not know, I think it is a great sight. As a matter of fact, I am going to stop blogging and continue to play.
This site, features on our wonderful blog is a great site. It is basically taking a quiz, but the quiz can be on any subject your wish to study: langauge, math, chemisty, art, and english. You take this quiz right, and every answer you get right 10 grams of rice will be donated to the UN food program. Great right?
So at this site you can get the extra studying you want with the initiative to feed those less fortunate. Well, I do not know, I think it is a great sight. As a matter of fact, I am going to stop blogging and continue to play.
A Little Bit Feminist
I am not going to lie, I am a little bit feminist. I believe that women are truly the most powerful creatures on the face of the earth. I believe that women can demand whatever they want, but they choose not to. Unlike men, women do not wish to put others down, they will sacrifice themsselves for others. Not because they are weak, but because they understand their power and do not wish to overpower anyone.
So this whole talk about men taking control of a conversation makes me mad a little. I posted a comment on someone's post, I can't remember who, saying how women are the true rulers of any conversation. If a women really doesn't want something to happen, they will straight out tell you. I do not know one women who would agree to eat out at a place they really do not want to eat at. If they do dance around the topic of where they want to go, it is because they want the other person to feel as if they have a say too, but the dance always comes back to what the woman really wants.
These are just my beliefs. Women really take command, we just do it in the way to make men feel as if they are in charge.
So this whole talk about men taking control of a conversation makes me mad a little. I posted a comment on someone's post, I can't remember who, saying how women are the true rulers of any conversation. If a women really doesn't want something to happen, they will straight out tell you. I do not know one women who would agree to eat out at a place they really do not want to eat at. If they do dance around the topic of where they want to go, it is because they want the other person to feel as if they have a say too, but the dance always comes back to what the woman really wants.
These are just my beliefs. Women really take command, we just do it in the way to make men feel as if they are in charge.
Girly Men and Manly Women...sound funny?
I have a lot of things going on in my mind when it comes to men and women and how stereotypes make the mout to be. THE ARGUEMENT that took place in one of our classes seems to be the talk of the town. While this ARGUEMENT got personal and crossed some lines, I thought it was classic male vs female. The stereotype that men have is that they are blunt, macho, and need to be one up on everyone and everything. Women have the stereotype of not taking charge and just talking around subjects. A majority of guys need to know what you want; they don't want to guess and get it wrong because when they get it wrong the girl gets all butthurt and their time together is no bueno. I personally don't fit the stereotype of how a woman should speak and many of us don't. Amari and I talk to each other at our table in class and the guys who sit with us laugh because we talk like "guys". We are straight forward, say what we feel, and we aren't ashamed to say what we think. Some girls talk around what they want and it drives me crazy. Now most men need to feel like they are in charge and to prove that they can get what they want. They always try to act like they are big and bad when they are not. Most try to act like they know everything when they don't but to say that would be seen as a weakness. I just wish people would look past the stereotypes that have been there forever! Break the mold people like really. Don't hold back your voice and don't be afraid of what others will say.
Many Many Pages Under My Belt
Aaallllllllll right. So heres the skivvy, I have read 3 and a half books since my other book review. I didn't finish the other one so here is the end of the story.......She forgives her mom, find a new life, gets with a really hot artist, and she learns alot about her life and others. BAM! pretty feel good ending=) The other books i read are called WINGS-which is about fairies and is becoming a series and anyone who likes twilight should look into these books because they are amazing- and the other book is called THIRTEEN REASONS- a girl kills herself and leaves behind this set of tapes and each tape talks to one of the 13 people who "helped" her end her life and the book takes you on a wild ride and makes you look at the world through a different set of eyes. I don't know the names of the authors by heart but if you really want to know just hit me up and I'll give them to you =)
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