Thursday, May 28, 2009
Men, men, men men mainly men!!!!!
As many of you may know I got into a simple argument with Daniel Aisha(I-ee-sha) Briscoe the other day; it was about who wanted to read or something like that, the argument escalated and then she ended up blurting out a statement saying, "Men always have to think what they say is final and that they (men) have ultimate authority women." I agree with the statement that men always think they have authority over women because men are more powerful and more assertive than woman. For example in the argument that Daniel Aisha (I-ee-sha) Briscoe and i got in was because i asked her if she wanted to talk to the class about what we read and she replied i don't care, it doesn't matter who talks in the group. That made me assert myself into saying that i will talk to the class then. Which makes me to believe that men tend to assert themselves in situations while women like to sit on the sidelines.
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No, men aren't the only one who are more powerful and assertive. If girls weren't assertive than Daniel wouldn't have spoken up about how she really felt.
I believe that girls fault where they say what they don't mean. All the time I tell my boyfriend "Oh, it doesn't matter," when in reality I just want to give him a chance to make a gentleman's decision. You know, be polite about it.
That's where girls and guys differ. A girl reads in between the lines while guys are more straightforward.
I mean it's a fault in both. If girls were straightforward, we'd get what we wanted more than half the time. If guys could read in between the lines, girl would get what they wanted half the time. No. I'm just kidding. In all seriousness, if we didn't slack in those areas, there won't be as much miscommunication and fights about who has authority, who is more assertive, and overall, who is the better communicator.
I believe you both. Men, Jimmy, do like to assert themselves over women. But what you males need to understand is that you do not control women. You may put yourself out there and control the situation, but it is because us women allow you to. Case in point. A guy and a girl want to go to the movies, the girl says I don't know what I want to see so the guy says, "We are going to see Terminator." The girl agrees because she has no other preference. On the other hand, if at the last minute she remembered Obsessed is still out. Both of you are going to see Obsessed.
So men may take charge, but only because women allow them too.
As a side note, why was that white girl soo crazy in Obsessed?!
I think the argument between you two was perfect timing for what we were talkin about at the time. Most of the time men are more assertive because they may not care what they say or what people think about them and i think girls aren't as aggressive at time because they don't want to come off as being mean and having people talking about them behind their back.
I don't believe men to be more assertive. Actually I see lots of men as laid back. A man will say to himself 'Just wait till it comes then see what happens.' A women will plan ahead so there aren't any surprises. Isn't planning ahead being assertive. Guys don't really take action in things; they just wait for it to happen if it didn't then they'll do something about it, but that's not being assertive.
♥peace
Nowadays, I do not believe that men or women are more powerful or more assertive. I believe that there are some men more assertive than women, while some women are more assertive than men.
When I'm at work and someone asks do you want me to serve that customer or me? (I work at Coldstone and serving gets really annoying!) If someone asks me that I am going to give them an honest answer, you can. Jimmy is saying that women will answer by saying it doesn't matter or you choose, however, I would not. And just because I am straightforward doesn't mean I think I have more power than my coworker. Just a difference of personalities.
OKAY, SO BASICALLY I REALLY THOUGHT THIS WHOLE ARGUMENT ESCALATED TO FAR OVER SOMETHING SMALL. IN MY OPINION I THOUGHT THE ARGUMENT WAS DUMB BUT IT WAS PERFECT TIMING. I THINK THAT GIRLS ARENT AS ASSERTIVE BECAUSE THEY ARE HOPING FOR THE GUYS TO MAKE THE DECISION. I THINK THAT GIRLS CAN BE ASSERTIVE IF THEY WANT TO AND IF THEY REALLY HAD AN OPINION THAT THEY WANTED TO BE HEARD. I THINK THAT THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN GUYS AND GIRLS IS THAT AT TIMES GUYS DONT THINK BEFORE THEY SPEAK. THEY DONT THINK ABOUT OTHER PEOPLE'S FEELINGS AS MUCH AS GIRLS MIGHT. GIRLS ARE MORE SENSITIVE TO THINGS AND BECAUSE OF THAT THEY DO WATCH WHAT THEY SAY OR THEY MIGHT BE A LITTLE LESS ASSERTIVE. AND BECASUE WOMEN ARENT AS ASSERTIVE THEY GET LOOKED AT AS BEING LESS POWERFUL, WHICH I DONT THINK IS TRUE.
Well I’m a little late on this convo but to clear the air I think it was a stupid argument and people got BUT HURT over absolutely nothing!!!!!!! Basically I asked jimmy if he wanted to read because I was trying to be polite even though he was a guest at our table. We had pretty much decided without him that i was reading but i asked him anyways. yes i did say that i didn’t care because I didn’t...i did begin to care once he said that he was reading ...he didn’t asked he just told me that i was reading! and i was assertive because i fought him on his statement and i brought it up in front of class... and yes i got heated in the moment and got over it after that period was over!!! people say that girls are the more sensitive ones but jimmy was the one who got all upset and offended over something i said in the heat of the moment!!! then he spread it all over school and people still talk about it!!!i was not sensitive about the situation i just think it is a shame that jimmy is holding on to something and still to it. today is graduation and i have been friends with jimmy since middle school...we have mutual friends inside and outside of school and he ignores me! the way i see it I’m likely to never see a majority of people ever again after high school...why hold on to a grudge especially over something so stupid!!
p.s. jimmy real mature telling everyone my middle name even though i told you in confidence when we were friends.
p.p.s.I AM GIRL...my name is spelled DANIELLE...not daniel
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